It used to be our daily practice when my son was much, much younger… I would bring him to school in the morning, and then pick him up after class.
Just another regular school day…
Our drive to and from school gave us the chance to bond more. Morning travels were spent preparing him for the day… while I spend the afternoon ride home listening to how his school day went.
Morning car ride to school, elementary days
When he was very young, I would walk with him to his classroom and would only leave once I see that he’s all settled in. In time, I would just drop him off at the door of the building and will just watch as he walked the hallway to his classroom — or up to how far my eyes could reach him.
I think he was in Grade 5 when he told me that I didn’t need to accompany him anymore even up to the gate… Though he said he still wanted me to be in the car with him so we can still chat on the way to school.
Eventually, it would just be the driver who would bring him and pick him up.
Classroom. Hallway. School gate. Car.
Last Thursday, my husband and I brought our son to the airport. He was to fly to another country for a College Weekend. As part of his college applications, he was invited by a university to visit the campus and for several interviews.
Car ride to the airport
It was his first trip abroad alone.
Being a mother, I was overjoyed and excited for him. I was happy that he is getting all these opportunities.
I was melancholic, too.
My heart was overflowing with joy and pride, yet at the same time it was melting and breaking, too. My son is not a baby anymore.
Off to College Candidate Weekend!
It was a prelude to letting go.
Immediately the morning after my son left, a good friend of mine, K, called up to check on me. She asked how I was, asked if I cried — or if I was still crying.
She knows I don’t cry easily… Yet she also knows that my heart breaks just the same.
That same afternoon, I was at the mall running errands. Just as I was about to go home, I thought of what snack to buy for my son. He always comes home from school hungry and I make it a point that he has something to eat when he gets home.
And then I remembered he was out of the country. All I could do was to let out a huge sigh.
Our children are not ours. Yes, we give them life, we raise them, we teach them… but we all know that time will come when we will have to let go and let them live their lives. Eventually they will have to spread their wings and live according to their purpose. And we allow them.
It is scary for us parents. Somehow don’t we all wish we can hold on to them, keep them near all time? Yet we also know that in order for them to grow, we have to let them go.
We just have to trust that we have taught them enough so they are able to stand on their own when the time comes.
We have to have faith in them, too.
So spend as much time with your kids while they are young… while they are there.
Like what I told my other friend who claims to be a ‘clingy parent’: Yes, be clingy. Cling as much and as hard as you can.
Because time flies. Life is fleeting. Our children grow up so fast. One day you are bringing them to nursery school, singing ABC’s in the car… Next day you are on the way to the airport to send them away for college.
Stages and Seasons. Try not to miss the many good moments in between.
A few of our mommy and son dates
First day of Nursery School… First day of HS Senior Year
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“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Prov. 22:6 KJV
photos are all mine 🙂