The thing about Facebook is sometimes you find yourself friends with people you don’t really personally know so well. They may be mere acquaintances… people you met at work yet you never really talked to much… or they are parents of your child’s friends… or your friends’ friends… or people you went to school with many moons ago.
Facebook reconnects people. Facebook allows you to be privy to someone’s life events. You know of them based on their status posts and the pictures they share. Sometimes you don’t really talk to a person yet you feel you know so much about her because of what you see online. You feel you know the person’s family even.
Over the weekend, I came across a Facebook post that made me literally stop and stare at the screen of my iPad for a good ten minutes. I had to make sure I read the post correctly.
It was a notice of someone’s passing. It was a message from a mother, bidding her 20-year old daughter farewell for the moment, with the promise that they will see other again soon.
My heart bled.
I met the mom in my son’s elementary school. She was a teacher. During one of our Parent-Teacher conferences some ten years ago, we got to talk and we found out that we came from the same high school. She was a year younger, but we had friends in common. I think she even dated one of my guy friends back in high school. We instantly became Facebook friends after that meeting.
Over the years, I learned more about her not because we talked to each other but because I see her FB posts on my newsfeed. Though I hardly saw her in person and my son has already moved schools, I still knew what goes on in her life because of the posts she shares. And I am pretty sure that she is updated with mine, as well.
She shares photos of her girls — two young adults… She has photos of her adorable students and their school activities… she shares shots of her dog…
Mostly she posts her adventures and travels with her two girls. I haven’t personally met them but I know their names and I feel like part of their family.
Three of them together, always with big smiles. Always happy, carefree. Living life. Enjoying moments. Being together.
Until the notice last weekend. Her youngest, gone too soon.
If you read a post like that and not get a jolt, I don’t know what will.
I can only imagine how she is feeling. No, I won’t even try to imagine it. Heartbroken would be an understatement. Maybe it’s more like experiencing the world crumbling down on you, both literally and figuratively.
Parents should not be burying their children. It should be the other way around. Our children should live long, full lives. We should be the ones to go first, prepare the way for them in heaven as we do on earth.
I don’t really know the circumstances that led to the young girl’s demise. I only heard bits and pieces. The girl got ill, there were complications, she didn’t survive.
It was every mother’s nightmare. My heart goes out to my friend.
Life is short. A lot of times we bother ourselves with the mundane that we forget to appreciate the important stuff. We obsess about things we don’t have, people we don’t like… We get petty, we waste our time and energy on things that won’t do us any good, people who bring out the worst in us.
When you hear about someone you know losing a person really important to her, you get jolted awake. It hits close to home. Somehow you realize that you want to make the most of whatever time you have on earth with the people you love… You realize that you want to get the most out of life.
As we get older, the days seem to move much faster. And we find ourselves questioning — are we living the life we want to live?
So, go — Spend time with your friends… Reach out… Make time for people… Show people you love that you love them… Hug someone… Laugh…. Laugh hard…. Take selfies… Capture the moments… Don’t just connect on Facebook, connect in real life…
Love your pets… Experience how it feels to be loved unconditionally… Put a smile on someone’s face… Allow someone to make you smile… Have a purpose… Be someone’s sunshine… Feel…
Live each day knowing that time is fleeting. Because only then will you value that which is truly important.
Live with no regrets.
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